Have you ever been ghosted in your intimate relationship?
Attractions, long conversations, high admiration, becoming emotionally attached…
The high emotional movements with whom you experienced have created immense pain now.
They have turned into sleepless nights and inner turmoil.
This is nothing but being ghosted in relationship.
As you read this post if it is the case with you, you also might ask yourself, “Why am I getting ghosted?“
Ghosting is a situation where there is no communication and there is no sort of explaination given by the person’s behaviour. It’s a very confusing and frustrating situation for many women who are honest.
You might even wonder why at all you entered a relationship.
But here’s the thing about being ghosted. It doesn’t mean something is wrong with you.
Few key reasons for being ghosted
Ghosting could be done in various circumstances.Fundamentally, it is a means to avoid responsibility, an avoidance tactic.Its a kind of silent betrayl which they do.
But those who are not emotionally mature and highly selfish would do so. Of course, we all are Selfish, but only to a certain level.
People who easily ghost after having an intimate relationship are the ones you need to be careful about.
They can easily cut off all contact as an easy escape. But at the same time, without hesitation, they want to connect again after some time.
Don’t you think the person who ghosted is unaware of what’s happening to you?
They knew that gave pain to the other, but they couldn’t accept the fact.
Men ghost women because they may feel unprepared for a long-term connection with a highly independent woman.
Crush on somebody
When a man begins to crush on another woman, his interest in you reduces naturally because he has found something special in her.
As you continue in that particular relationship, you will notice that he doesn’t want to spend much time with you. He secretly maintains his social connections not disclosing with you, especially meeting new women and developing a relationship.
Hence, he might not be ghosting you intentionally; He just has no time to devote exclusively to you.
If you’re not going to fulfil his needs, he knows he is wasting time with you.
Therefore, he will prefer to ghost you instead of telling you the real reasons.
Red Flag’ Behavior
If you are wondering why he is ghosting you, there are chances he is scared of his partner or might be highly engaged with other activities.
When some men are committed to their partner, they might not give you the attention you crave.
Few men might find someone more enjoyable along the way.
So they would be emotionally unavailable at the times you most needed them.
But when asked, they give several reasons to justify themselves.
Be cautious.
If you feel constant pain and lack of clarity in this relationship, It’s an Alert!
You need not prove your worth to someone who lacks integrity in a relationship.
Not being serious about you
Our virtual lives, even at the physical level, are connected or disconnected just with a simple swipe of one’s finger in a certain direction.
There is not much value placed on the impression of terminating conversations on a fragile ground.
If one person is looking for a casual fling while you seek a committed relationship, then it hurts you.
Some men may not be ready for a serious relationship due to multiple breakups or personal circumstances, causing them to distance themselves emotionally.
They might be attracted intially but they are not committed to you.
We live in a world where constant negotiations happen.
We negotiate not only in business but also in relationships indirectly.
It’s all about the Gain we receive from the other end.
If there is no gain in one particular relationship apart from the close relationships, people go to any extent to hurt or avoid the other.
Even in love, there is only Give and Take.
No one can give unconditional love except for the parents or the divine.
As a woman, you must understand and move forward without chasing after that man.
Expectations lead to pain and worry.
So, instead, Focus On Yourself.
How to cope with being ghosted?
Recovering from being ghosted can be challenging because one feels like being cast away. It also stimulates a person’s deep fear of abandonment.
There may be terrible pain, similar to the physical pain in the heart. But you have to heal yourself.
Do not chase them or continue to contact them.
This will only further degrade your self-esteem and probably push them further away and justify the situation.
The person who ghosted you lacked integrity and ignored to think about the consequences of their actions. It could also indicate that they are not worried about their actions and are insensitive or not reliable.
If you feel it is important for you, compose one message, not emotive, politely saying that you had a good time, thank you and goodbye.
If they connect to you after sometime, do not hesitate and give them a second chance. You have seen their true colors so just be aware!
It reminds me of a line I recently read on social media. It’s about a chemistry teacher telling a young student to Wait-“The colours will change.”
The woman with the purpose of all the strength will be spent on their own, whether in love or marriage and will not rely only on men.
Let not others influence you;
The pain of being ghosted can lead to self-reflection and tremendous personal growth.
Intense moments of pain or joy will make life more meaningful with varied experiences.
The pain of being ghosted itself is a powerful comeback for strong women.
Though the phase is extremely painful, it will help you in having clarity.
So, take it easy on yourself and know it’s a lesson.
Don’t grip over the past.
Get healed and overcome the pain.
Enjoy being in the present. So stand tall, gorgeous.
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