Many of you feel Relationships are meant to give security and emotional stability.
Of course, it is true in a few cases.
Whenever you encounter a new relationship, you feel excited.
Let us see how the journey of marital relationships unfolds.
Initial Stage of Marital Relationships
You begin with high hopes, dazzled by the initial charm, and you will be convinced that a particular relationship is a good match for you.
Your journey kicks off with all the right ingredients: incredible chemistry, lavish attention, and a partner who can light up any party.
Who wouldn’t want to be a part of such a fairy tale, right?
But wait, there’s more!
Unfortunately, the joy fades away after some time; you lose the intimacy that you had earlier.
You undergo a lot of emotional turmoil, criticism, and disrespect, and they might even ignore you.
Even before you know it, you will be in a maze.
If you find yourself stuck in a loop of painful and toxic relationships, take solace in the fact that you’re not alone.
I have noticed people with even the best intentions and dreams of love find themselves shackled to unhealthy relationships.
It’s strange that it makes it hard to distinguish between reality and the dreamy illusion you’ve imagined.
What are healthy relationships?
Healthy relationships, especially marital relationships, are the ones that have maturity on both sides.
But unfortunately, due to several reasons, there is a lack of understanding.
People enter into a relationship needing emotional safety because they cannot handle loneliness. They depend on others for their happiness, which is entirely ok, but later on, as you travel for some time, you will notice the real person.
Then, you will observe their thinking levels.
What appears outside is not always real!
Each person has his/her fears, insecurities, and past unresolved traumas, which are reflected in every relationship.
Few even do gaslighting to gain power and control over the other person and make the other person completely wrong.
It could be betrayal in a few cases. In a few cases, there is a decline in connecting to each other.
There is a gap in the relationship internally. Only a deep connection enables us to share bold ideas, feel increased compassion, and express ourselves freely with one another.
It may be helpful for you to look into the reasons behind frequent feelings of fear, sadness, loneliness, or rage in your relationships. You almost certainly have a part to play in these unhealthy patterns, so be willing to think about it.
Why is a marital relationship important?
- A happy marriage offers consistent emotional and practical support in adulthood.
- Being in a stable marriage is linked to better mental health and improved physical health.
- Economic well-being tends to increase in the context of a satisfying marriage.
Do you feel like your relationship is fragile?
For example, when we pack some items, we label them “handle carefully” because they might break at time. It often happens while dealing with relationships also.
Are you losing yourself while trying to satisfy others?
Do you experience a feeling of being ignored?
Relationships play a vital role in your life. So try to resolve it on your part. Allow your hurts to heal.
You can try the below method.
- Where you begin to experience the other person completely. In fact, every person is living inside of us.
- It sounds weird! But this is true. What we meant is that all the experiences are within us.
- Even if you are naturally empathetic, putting yourself in another person’s shoes can be difficult when you are in a relationship with them.
Suppose two seedlings are struggling to sprout in arid soil.Imagine here empathy acts as the gentle rain, softening the ground and allowing roots to take hold. Truly listen to your loved ones, not just with your ears but your heart.
Try to see the world through their eyes, understand their joys and sorrows, and validate their feelings.
This is the process of embodying the entire life experience of someone you have internalized.
It can help you escape difficult situations, improve empathy, and open up new perspectives.
More often than not, this is a great tool to use in a relationship therapy/coaching conversation with your partner.
It is easier to do this when a third person is interviewing you, but it can also be done with your partner, where you both embody the other.
You can also do this on your own using a journal.
What makes a good marital relationship?
The most important thing to have is an authentic need to put yourself in another person’s shoes. It is important to note that this is not for every relationship. It is quite a challenging process that needs great attention.
So look inward and be honest to yourself.
It will surely help you to take your relationships to a greater level.
About The Author - Jyotsna
