Have you ever been ghosted in your intimate relationship?
Attractions, long conversations, high admiration, becoming emotionally attached…
BUT
All of a sudden, there is no communication in any form.
The high emotional movements with whom you experienced,
The long time commitment you dreamt of,
Now have turned into sleepless nights and inner turmoil.
Especially if you’re self-conscious, you might ask yourself, “Why am I getting ghosted?“
Remember, you are not alone in feeling that way.
It’s a very confusing and frustrating situation for many women who are honest.
You might even wonder why at all you entered a relationship.
But here’s the thing about being ghosted.
It doesn’t mean something is wrong with you.
Reasons for being ghosted
Ghosting can take place for several reasons.
Fundamentally, it is a means to avoid responsibility, an avoidance tactic.
But those who are not emotionally mature and highly selfish would do so. Of course, we all are Selfish, but only to a certain level.
People who easily ghost after having an intimate relationship are the ones you need to be careful about.
They can easily cut off all contact as an easy escape. But at the same time, without hesitation, they want to connect again after some time.
Don’t you think the person who ghosted is unaware of what’s happening to you?
They knew that gave pain to the other, but they couldn’t accept the fact.
Men ghost women because they may feel unprepared for a long-term connection with a highly independent woman.
Crush on somebody
When a man begins to crush on another woman, his interest in you reduces naturally because he has found something special in her.
With time, you will notice that he doesn’t want to spend much time talking to you over the phone or texts.
He might maintain social connections, especially meeting new women with some other reason to keep up with several people.
Hence, he might not be ghosting you intentionally; He just has no time to devote exclusively to you.
If you’re not going to fulfil his needs, he knows he is wasting time with you.
Therefore, he will prefer to ghost you instead of telling you the real reasons.
Red Flag’ Behavior
If you are wondering why he is ghosting you, there are chances he is scared of his partner or might be highly engaged with other activities.
When some men are committed to their partner, they might not give you the attention you crave.
Few men might find someone more enjoyable along the way.
So they would be emotionally unavailable at the times you most needed them.
But when asked, they give several reasons to justify themselves.
Be cautious.
If you feel constant pain and lack of clarity in this relationship, It’s an Alert!
You need not prove your worth to someone who lacks integrity in a relationship.
Not being serious about you
Our virtual lives, even at the physical level, are connected or disconnected just with a simple swipe of one’s finger in a certain direction.
There is not much value placed on the impression of terminating conversations on a fragile ground.
If one person is looking for a casual fling while you seek a committed relationship, then it hurts you.
Some men may not be ready for a serious relationship due to multiple breakups or personal circumstances, causing them to distance themselves emotionally.
It’s possible to be attracted to you initially and then realize that you’re not compatible in the long run.
We live in a world where constant negotiations happen.
We negotiate not only in business but also in relationships indirectly.
It’s all about the Gain we receive from the other end.
If there is no gain in one particular relationship apart from the close relationships, people go to any extent to hurt or avoid the other.
Even in love, there is only Give and Take.
No one can give unconditional love except for the parents or the divine.
As a woman, you must understand and move forward without chasing after that man.
Expectations lead to pain and worry.
So, instead, Focus On Yourself.
How to cope with being ghosted?
Recovering from being ghosted can be challenging because one feels like being cast away. It also stimulates a person’s deep fear of abandonment.
There may be terrible pain, similar to the physical pain in the heart. But you need to come out of it.
You can do a few things if you have been in the sad position of being on the wrong end of it.
Do not chase them or continue to contact them.
This will only further degrade your self-esteem and probably push them further away and justify the situation.
If you feel it is important for you, compose one message, not emotive, politely saying that you had a good time, thank you and goodbye.
If they return to you a few months later, do not give them a second chance – they’ve shown their true colours.
It reminds me of a line I recently read on social media. It’s about a chemistry teacher telling a young student to Wait-“The colours will change.”
The woman with the purpose of all the strength will be spent on their own, whether in love or marriage and will not rely only on men.
Let not others influence you;
The pain of being ghosted can lead to self-reflection and tremendous personal growth.
Intense moments of pain or joy will make life more meaningful with varied experiences.
The pain of being ghosted itself is a powerful comeback for strong women.
Though it’s extremely painful, it can help you learn the truth about what you want and need in a relationship.
So, take it easy on yourself and know it’s a lesson.
Don’t grip over the past.
Get healed and overcome the pain.
Enjoy being in the present. So stand tall, gorgeous.
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